English4 Electronic Journals

Tuesday, September 28, 2004

Response to Tricia

Tricia believes that immaturity of high school students is a problem for a relationship. In that aspect, I would completely agree. Many would like to argue and say that they are mature adults but in reality, they aren't. Immaturity brings thoughts such as cheating, blowing off your date, and other silly things. She comments on how one may feel that they, themselves, are too young. Here is where I would have to disagree. If they thought they were too young to have a relationship, they would never start one. Also, as I mentioned before how many think they are mature adults, they would also disagree. Typical teenagers try to age faster than they really do. They like to act more mature and more sophisticated than they really are. Many will try to commit themselves to something to help them feel this way. When I say commit, I mean to anything like a club/sport, but for those who aren't involved, they choose a person. From there, they start a relationship not realizing what their future will bring, especially if college is intended. At the very end of her comment, "We all still have a lot of growing up to do. We're not sure what we want yet." is 100% correct. We do have more time ahead of us to grow up and be old instead of trying to do it all now in our teen years. This is hte time where we try to find ourselves and what we want out of our lives. We don't need to be trying to find the "one."

Dave Berry-Relationships

1. Barry's article referring to relationships explains how many don't happen. Women are always thinking about their futures and pasts of relationships. Men, however, don't really give it much thought at all. Then when it does come to mind, another subject pops up and they become distracted. Like Roger, he began to think about cars. When you are committed in a relationship, don't make it so blunt. When you're open about it, like anouncing your time together (6months), it brings more thought than it really should. You begin to wonder if it's what you want and if you're ready to take it a step farther. Instead, you should be quiet and leave it as it is. Both the female and male are better off not stressing about their "relationship." The way that Berry makes this theory evitable, helps the woman understand a man. This makes women realize that men aren't as concerned with this as women are. Men do eventually realize they have a relationship, it just takes a longer time for them.

2. Relationships are very hard to have. Each individual has their own fantasy of a relationship. It's definately more evitable that girl's are sometimes a little bit unrealistic. As for me....I'm not really sure what I would consider a good/perfect relationship. I'm not too demanding for attention. Dates aren't as important either. The only 2 dates that should be remembered is when the relationship first started and when, or if, the marriage is. Otherwise, days such as, the first kiss, the time you had dinner together, etc. aren't as important. For a relationship to work, the couple needs to have good communication skills. If there is a problem, the 2 of you need to be able to work it out instead of letting it build up and possibly ruining something good. My "perfect" relationship would be the male being sensitive to my needs, such as participating in the cooking and cleaning, and going out and about. O....how can I forget, I do want my once a month spa days!!!(that's a joke). The male should be able to socialize outside of just me. I expect him to have friends, both male and female, and do manly things. He should be at the bars and other places watching the football games on Sundays.

3. High school relationships are very demanding. The girls bring a lot of drama to everything. I see girls complaining in the halls about how their guy didn't call last night. Get over it....I have bigger problems and concerns than not recieving a phone call. Guys aren't innocent either. They are very misleading. Sometimes it seems like they might like you, yet another day, that guy will be all over another girl. A relationship has 2 people in them. The bickering goes back and forward. Sometimes its the girl who becomes obsessive and sometimes it's the guy. However, when you're considering a relationship, there should be a few guidelines brought up. Explain what you want or don't want. For example, if you're planning on going to college next year and you don't want to be tied down, then that's your responsibility to mention that. This will save a lot of drama and hurt feelings. In high school, there is also a lot going on. Many are involved in sports and exracurricular activities so that also limits a relationship. This gives less time and less attention to the other individual.

Monday, September 20, 2004

Guardian Angel

1. I know that I'm being watched over and protected everyday. There has been many accounts where his/her presence was felt. Over the summer, I was driving home from my boyfriend's house at night. He lives by US Cellular field and I took Western Ave. home. I had to pass through the ghetto!!! I know it really doesn't sound like much, but I was freaked out. The worst part of the drive was catching a red light right next to this liquor store. There were many thugs standing outside and just crowding around. I didn't want to look over there so I kept looking straight. I noticed them glaring at me. The fact that I was white and alone didn't help me in a poor black neighborhood. I just kept praying for the light to change and I was ready to floor it. The group started walking towards my car, or the corner, and I was about to call the cops. I had my cell phone open and 911 dialed. All I needed to do now was to press SEND. My guardian angel made it possible for a safe getaway. The light changed. As shaky as I was, she/ he made sure I made it home safely. I could have easily gotten into an accident because of how scared I was but they didn't let it happen. I felt so relieved to get home and I thanked them so much.

2. A lot of times when things don't go my way, I'll blame my guardian angel. I don't like to become attached to people because I hate having to say good-bye. For instance, when my gradmother died, I was so upset. I felt like my angel wasn't there to help me get through it for taht she didn't help her out. I know she is there for me, but I felt like my angel could have helped her too. Another time is when I like someone. I don't usually have relationships because I have a hard time letting go and again, saying good bye. I absolutely hate getting hurt too. I never say "I love you" because it's too strong of a saying. So when a person I strongly care about or am closely attached to leaves, I'm left alone. That's when I feel my guardian angel has let me down.

3. My sister, Michelle, has great luck. She constantly thinks she has bad luck but I think she forgets about all her accidents. About 6 years ago, she was riding her bike with one of her good friends and she was hit by a car. The car drove away pretending like nothing happened. She was able to walk away with a sprained ankle. That is really good luck because she could have died or been seriously injured. She has great luck with love too. She has been in and out of relationships. At one point she was engaged but found out that he cheated on her. Although she was upset, she was able to move on and find another guy. That's nothing too special but to me, it really is. I admire the luck she has. However, is it really luck? I think she has a great guardian angel too. She is always being watched upon. As for bad luck, everyone gets that. I really don't have any kind of luck. Good things happen to me very often, but bad things happen too. Luck is all in your mind and it all depends on the way you percieve it.

Tuesday, September 07, 2004

On Noise

1. Senenca explains how there is day noise and night noise. Day noise is all the activity going on around you such as a car honk, the constant rush, a jack hammer, etc. Night, however, the noise is all in your imagination. I do believe that it is your fear. You're worries, your inner thoughts, and your frustrations come out at night when you don't have anything around you. When you're sitting alone in your bed trying to go to sleep, you think about everything and anything. "Life does not remove our worries; it brings them to surface." I completely agree. The only chance you get to think about anything that you want, is when you're ready to go to sleep. You're relaxed and you can clear you're mind of the stress that you may have faced. However, as hard as you try to not think about how your day was, it always finds a way to come up.

2. I really don't think it's even possible to live simply. Living simply is not worrying about anything. No matter how hard you try to not worry about something, you really can't do it. The littlest knick knack can bother you. Therefore, living simply would be impossible to do if there is no worrying. In my opinion, living simply would be living happily. You can find a career that you enjoy, have a loving family, and a social life. As long as you are happy, your life will have less worries, less frustrations, and definitely less stress. That's the only definition of living simply I can think of.

3. My bed constantly makes noises while I'm laying in it and my thoughts are annoying too. Every little movement that I make, my bed squeaks. The only reason I hear my bed though is because I'm still awake thinking. Before I go to bed, I'll think about what I'm gonna wear, if I'll run the next night, an upcoming test/ quiz, and whatever else is going on at school. While I think about stupid things, I constantly turn and flip around. I always stress myself during school. I'm always complaining that I don't have enough time to do my homework, study, go to work, and be involved in all the clubs I'm in. Then I will start to worry about my grades and then I just cant fall asleep causing the flipping and turning. To get my bed to stop squeaking, I would have to stop thinking. It's easier said than done!!!

Response to rwstell

I agree with Rich about there being 2 noises and the causes of them. However in the second response I dont agree. Worrying does make you angry and it can put you in a bad mood, however there is no way to avoid thinking and worrying. It's natural and human to do these things. His way of living simple is a good way but everyone cares about something and always thinks about one thing or another too. It's a good way to live but it's just not realistic. To solve your sleeping problems, close your door so you dont hear the TV. About not being waken up for school, you're on your own there. School is jsut something that you have to go through and wake up for. It could be worse.