English4 Electronic Journals

Tuesday, September 28, 2004

Dave Berry-Relationships

1. Barry's article referring to relationships explains how many don't happen. Women are always thinking about their futures and pasts of relationships. Men, however, don't really give it much thought at all. Then when it does come to mind, another subject pops up and they become distracted. Like Roger, he began to think about cars. When you are committed in a relationship, don't make it so blunt. When you're open about it, like anouncing your time together (6months), it brings more thought than it really should. You begin to wonder if it's what you want and if you're ready to take it a step farther. Instead, you should be quiet and leave it as it is. Both the female and male are better off not stressing about their "relationship." The way that Berry makes this theory evitable, helps the woman understand a man. This makes women realize that men aren't as concerned with this as women are. Men do eventually realize they have a relationship, it just takes a longer time for them.

2. Relationships are very hard to have. Each individual has their own fantasy of a relationship. It's definately more evitable that girl's are sometimes a little bit unrealistic. As for me....I'm not really sure what I would consider a good/perfect relationship. I'm not too demanding for attention. Dates aren't as important either. The only 2 dates that should be remembered is when the relationship first started and when, or if, the marriage is. Otherwise, days such as, the first kiss, the time you had dinner together, etc. aren't as important. For a relationship to work, the couple needs to have good communication skills. If there is a problem, the 2 of you need to be able to work it out instead of letting it build up and possibly ruining something good. My "perfect" relationship would be the male being sensitive to my needs, such as participating in the cooking and cleaning, and going out and about. O....how can I forget, I do want my once a month spa days!!!(that's a joke). The male should be able to socialize outside of just me. I expect him to have friends, both male and female, and do manly things. He should be at the bars and other places watching the football games on Sundays.

3. High school relationships are very demanding. The girls bring a lot of drama to everything. I see girls complaining in the halls about how their guy didn't call last night. Get over it....I have bigger problems and concerns than not recieving a phone call. Guys aren't innocent either. They are very misleading. Sometimes it seems like they might like you, yet another day, that guy will be all over another girl. A relationship has 2 people in them. The bickering goes back and forward. Sometimes its the girl who becomes obsessive and sometimes it's the guy. However, when you're considering a relationship, there should be a few guidelines brought up. Explain what you want or don't want. For example, if you're planning on going to college next year and you don't want to be tied down, then that's your responsibility to mention that. This will save a lot of drama and hurt feelings. In high school, there is also a lot going on. Many are involved in sports and exracurricular activities so that also limits a relationship. This gives less time and less attention to the other individual.